Pride — One woman’s reflection
As a proud 75-year-old LGBTQ+ woman in a loving relationship of 42 years — and legally married since 2008, when Connecticut boldly led the nation in recognizing same-sex marriage — I am honored to share these reflections during Pride Month.
I’ve called West Haven home since 1978. Over the decades, I’ve seen this city grow, change, and come together through challenging times. And today, I’m filled with hope and pride as our community raises the Pride flag at City Hall once again.
People often ask me, What does Pride mean? Why should it matter to West Haven?
Here’s the truth: LGBTQ+ people are part of the fabric of this city. We are your family—your mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, and cousins. We are your neighbors and friends, your teachers and classmates, your doctors, nurses, caregivers, restaurant workers, and business owners. We are first responders—your firemen, policemen, and EMTs. We are public servants, serving in City government, on boards and commissions, and on your City Council. We are contributors, leaders, volunteers, and visionaries. We are Westies.
So, when we celebrate Pride, we’re not asking for special treatment — we’re asking for recognition, respect, and a shared commitment to inclusion. That rainbow flag flying at City Hall is more than a symbol. It’s a promise: Everyone is welcome. Everyone is valued. Everyone belongs.
Still, I understand that for some, even among allies, there can be hesitation — about what to say, how to show support, or what Pride really means. Maybe you worry about saying the wrong thing. Maybe you wonder if public events and flags are enough. These displays are powerful for visibility and matter, but here’s what matters even more: having the conversation.
Start by reaching out. Talk to someone—especially a young person—who might need to hear that they are seen, accepted, and loved. Tell them they are enough, just as they are. That being who they are is not just okay—it’s beautiful. Sometimes, the most profound act of celebration is to listen, affirm, and show love without condition.
So how do we celebrate Pride in West Haven?
By choosing love. By making space for every voice. By ensuring no one is left out or left behind. In our city, love has room to grow. And love—always—wins.
Ruby Melton,
Councilwoman, 2nd District